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Dating. Does the very word make you tingle all over with excitement, or quiver with fear? Whatever your take, if you're young, free and single then the Chicklit dating coach Salma Shah has some words of wisdom for you. We've also got some helpful advice from dating experts www.match.com and some interesting stories on how to find the match that's right for you.| Match.com's advice for successful online flirting |
 Match.com has kindly given us their advice on the world of online dating, helping you get the hang of art of online flirting. Relax and enjoy it. The more you have fun and learn to be yourself when communicating with other singles, the more likely you'll reach out and make a connection. Online dating allows you to relax in your own familiar environment so it's great for shy people who find it difficult to communicate in a face-to-face situation. Starting an email conversation means they can be more confident and think about what they want to say rather than getting tongue-tied. Take advantage of this and learn to be yourself as we tend to be attracted to people who are confident and sexy. Break the ice and make the first move. We are attracted to those who make us laugh so use humour in your emails to make somebody smile and don't be afraid to lighten the mood when initiating a conversation or suggesting a first date. Even in cyber dating it is more traditional for a man to ask a woman out but if the feelings are mutual and you're ready to meet, many men are flattered when a woman offers her telephone number to arrange a date. Make it personal. Since we can't catch someone's eye physically online, we need to make sure we stand out from the crowd so don't send the same email to multiple recipients with only the name changed. Make your emails more flattering and distinctive by using your matches name within the body of your message and referring to specific interests or something they told you in their last email or mentioned in their profile. Show an interest. We are always flattered when someone shows an interest in us and wants to know more so ask lots of questions. It not only gives you a better idea of the person you are communicating with but it also shows you like them. Present yourself well. Make a good first impression by checking your flirtatious sentences and cyber sweet nothings are spelt correctly. Just as we would make sure we looked presentable offline, it's as important to make yourself look good online so be sure to spell-check your emails and proof-read your conversations before sending them. If your match is impressed by your grammar, honesty and sense of humour, you'll feel good and your confidence will automatically shine through. Strike a balance. It pays to be forthcoming online so don't be too brief or curt in your emails. Offer your personality and use this as an opportunity to explain yourself passionately to ensure your email is not passed by. However at the same time try not to be too over flirtatious and familiar with a new match as this is often a turn off. Don't play games. Playing hard to get online can be a disadvantage when your match is inundated with offers of love. There are always thousands of other single to choose from so if you're interested make sure you tell them sooner rather than later before someone else snaps them up. |
| Posted: 01/04/2005 20:44:20 |
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